{"id":725,"date":"2015-01-31T08:50:44","date_gmt":"2015-01-31T08:50:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/richardmills.co.uk\/?page_id=725"},"modified":"2015-01-31T10:25:18","modified_gmt":"2015-01-31T10:25:18","slug":"abundance-and-scarcity-assertiveness-remapping","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"http:\/\/richardmills.co.uk\/?page_id=725","title":{"rendered":"Abundance and Scarcity: Assertiveness Remapping"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"et_pb_section et_section_regular\">\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_row\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_text_align_left\">\n\t\t\t\n<h1 class=\"entry-title\">Abundance and Scarcity: Assertiveness Remapping<\/h1>\n\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_text -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_column -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_row --><div class=\"et_pb_row\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_2\">\n\t\t\t<img src=\"http:\/\/richardmills.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Money.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"et-waypoint et_pb_image et_pb_animation_left\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_column --><div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_2\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_text_align_left\">\n\t\t\t\n<p><strong>A unique format to explore who you are!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>This is an experiential workshop that is designed to help you encounter and re-assess your assertiveness. We&#8217;ll do this around a theme that is central to our lives, whether we like it or not, and that theme is&#8230; &#8230;money.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The day will\u00a0help you<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>encounter issues like giving, receiving, taking, losing, speaking up, and<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>notice how assertive or unassertive\u00a0you are in these activities.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><\/h3>\n\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_text -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_column -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_row --><div class=\"et_pb_row\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_text_align_left\">\n\t\t\t\n<h3>Why &#8216;assertiveness&#8217;?<\/h3>\n<p>So, how come this workshop is billed as connected to assertive behaviour? What&#8217;s it got to do with what we do, and say, and how we do that with our voice, our body, our mind? Behind our behaviour lies our whole personality, our dynamics, our flow of emotions, wishes, needs, fears, motives etc. What we do is an expression of what we feel <em>(or are trying to avoid feeling)<\/em>. And, this has had a long time to develop (which is why personal development and therapy takes a long time!). It follows that one way of becoming more assertive is to find out more about how we operate in the world, i.e. what makes us tick. You can do a certain amount of that learning by reading a book, watching a youtube video or chatting to others who know you. This workshop offers you something extra: it&#8217;s<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Real-time,<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Experiential, and<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Interpersonal<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Why &#8216;remapping&#8217;?<\/h3>\n<p>We human beings are pretty complex, so we have a whole gamut of emotions and internal states that underlie our behaviour, even if we either are unaware of them or seek to deny them or push &#8217;em away. These may be:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Envy<\/li>\n<li>Shame<\/li>\n<li>Relief<\/li>\n<li>Sadness<\/li>\n<li>Guilt<\/li>\n<li>Anger<\/li>\n<li>Jealousy<\/li>\n<li>Gratitude<\/li>\n<li>Generosity<\/li>\n<li>Victim, persecutor or rescuer states<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This workshop offers you that chance to experience and think anew about your emotions and reactions in an interpersonal situation that is facilitated by me.<\/p>\n<h3>Facilitation<\/h3>\n<p>As in all the courses and workshops I have facilitated over the last 20 years I hope to foster a supportive and friendly environment where people can feel relaxed enough and safe enough to work on their interpersonal skills and further their self-knowledge.\u00a0 Also, I am hoping that we will all have some fun within the search for clarity and self-knowledge.<\/p>\n<h3>Structure<\/h3>\n<p>The 4 or 5 exercises in this workshop are experiential and unusual \u2013 it\u2019s not just talking, though there will be some of that.\u00a0 When I have done them in the past they have been absorbing, thought-provoking and memorable. <em><strong>Please bring\u00a0a sum of money with you to this event.\u00a0 Cheques and IOU\u2019s are also acceptable.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You may leave the workshop with more money than you arrived with, and<\/li>\n<li>You may leave the workshop with less money than you arrived with.<\/li>\n<li>Be as cautious or as risky as you need.<\/li>\n<li>There is no gambling in this event.<\/li>\n<li>Nothing is compulsory\u00a0in the workshop, and\u00a0everything is optional:\u00a0you won&#8217;t be required to do anything that you don&#8217;t want to do.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Group size<\/h3>\n<p>There will be 6 &#8211; 10 participants.<\/p>\n<h3>Details<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Venue:<\/strong><br \/>\nOakwood House,<br \/>\n637 Roundhay Road,<br \/>\nOakwood,<br \/>\nLeeds LS8 4BA<\/p>\n<p><strong>Date:\u00a0<\/strong>Saturday 25th April 2015<br \/>\n<strong>Time:<\/strong>\u00a010.30am &#8211; 5.00pm.<br \/>\n<strong>Price:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a31 &#8211; \u00a395:\u00a0You decide during the workshop how much to pay me.\u00a0 This figure will not be revealed to anyone else unless you choose for that to happen.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h1 class=\"entry-title\">Booking<\/h1>\n<div class=\"entry-content\">\n<ul>\n<li>Send me an email saying that you would like a place. Put your name and phone number.<\/li>\n<li>Send me a deposit of \u00a325 to reserve your place.\u00a0 This will be refunded to you at the start of the workshop.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You may do this by:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Bank transfer (ask me for\u00a0my bank details), or by<\/li>\n<li>Cheque or cash in the post (Make cheques payable to Richard Mills, and send to\u00a0Richard Mills, Room 6, Oakwood House, 637 Roundhay Road, Oakwood, Leeds LS8 4BA), or by<\/li>\n<li>Paypal: Send me an email saying that you will pay by Paypal, and I will send a Paypal payment request: just follow the easy steps.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div>\n\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_text -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_column -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_row --><div class=\"et_pb_row\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_3\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_testimonial et_pb_testimonial_no_image et_pb_bg_layout_dark et_pb_text_align_left clearfix\" style=\"background-color: #01934a;\">\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_testimonial_description\">\n\t\t\t\t\n<p>\u201cI really enjoyed the course, it was well organised, there were a variety of exercises. One of the exercises gave me a real \u2018lightbulb\u2019 moment. I would definitely go to other courses you do\u201d<br \/>\n<em>\u2018The Roots of Assertiveness \u2026 Personal Power\u2019 \u00a0one-day course, Leeds 2014<\/em><\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t<strong class=\"et_pb_testimonial_author\">O.A.<\/strong>\n\t\t\t\t<p class=\"et_pb_testimonial_meta\">Leeds, 2014<\/p>\n\t\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_testimonial_description -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_testimonial -->\n\t\t<\/div> <!-- .et_pb_column --><div class=\"et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_3\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_testimonial et_pb_testimonial_no_image et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_text_align_left clearfix\" style=\"background-color: #dee5a5;\">\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_testimonial_description\">\n\t\t\t\t\n<p>\u2018I have attended a variety of workshops with Richard and always find them powerful, challenging and exciting. At the same time I know I am safe, though not so safe that I can\u2019t grow. 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